love your life

The word "loving your self" can be unfamiliar to a lot of people. Most people don't like themselves - they feel they are not good enough and they keep blaming themselves for their failures. Even worse, most people are not happy with their lives, believing that they are a failure for not being able to afford the lives they want to have. It may stem from the very basic human nature - people like to complain, for whatever reason, there is always something to make them unhappy - the hard to explain insatiable needs. How can we deal effectively with this very nature? The easy antidote will be to love your life, or to love what you have. But how? Of course, it is easier said than done.

Loving your life means loving yourself, both terms go hand in hand and they can be synonymous. When you love yourself, you love your life and, as a result, you enjoy your life more. It is important that you feel positive about your life because feelings are infectious. When you are grumpy the people around you will get grumpy. When you are positive, you create a positive environment and you help people feel positive about their lives. In a positive environment, people support each other and you will get the best from life.

It is important to keep your feelings in check because negative environment can be dangerous. Again, feelings are infectious - your complaining nature may create a negative, if not hostile environment. Under such a circumstance, not only existing problems do not get solved, you add more problems to the already chaotic environment. You can never underestimate the multiplier effect, especially when it is negative, as it can create a downward spiral, a vicious circle. Once you are in a vicious circle, it can lead to a trap that will take a tremendous effort to get out. When we are talking about domino effect of negativity, we don't have to talk about being tied to addictions such as drugs, cigarettes or gambling. Those are extreme examples. We can talk about a simple example such as you were upset for being late to work, then you blamed the traffic and the government, then you told your co-worker about it, then your co-worker got upset because she couldn't focus on her work, then her boss got upset because the deadline was missed. Then the entire office got upset because the boss was mad to everybody. Then you came home upset, then your family got upset because you were upset, then you were so upset that you forgot to pay an overdue bill, then you got even more upset to pay the late fee, and so on, and so on. Something has to be done when you see the earliest sign of upsetting emotions to stop the spiraling effect.

Therefore, it is important that you learn to love yourself so that you can love your life. How? The first step can be to realize that your life is a gift from God and God knows best, way beyond human. There is a mystery in life, we simply must believe that God creates us for a purpose, a good purpose. And if anything, whatever we do, we do it for God. It means that to do your best in life is to show gratitude to God for the gift. On the other hand, to complain about life is to complain about God's policy. It is patronizing! It is like you think you are better than God and you start telling God what to do. When something doesn't go the way you think it should go, you might want to take a deeper look to see the hidden message sent by God. Challenges always provide us with something to learn.

There are many ways that you can do to start to love yourself. First, you can explore your dreams. Your life is at your disposal, you have every right to follow your heart and you have the privilege to choose what you believe are the best for you. Listening to your heart allows you to have a purpose in life and you can start by developing interests in whatever makes you happy. Then you can start building up your strengths to enable you to accomplish your dreams. Another way to help you love yourself is to give your love to others. You cannot love others if you don't love yourself first. Loving others creates a push for you to start learning to love yourself.

What if we feel upset anyway for life is full with upsetting incidents. Being upset is part of being human, and we want to acknowledge our humanity. Of course, feeling positive takes efforts and it takes a lot of self discipline. It is easy to get back to the old pattern of prone to being irritable. But, it is a matter of choice. If you want to have a good life, you may want to learn to overcome the negativity.